TO-DO List vs. TO-FEEL List…..to be more uniquely YOU!

September 3, 2014 //
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Because of tapping on a daily basis and becoming so much more aware of my own body and its joys and discomforts and feelings, I had a brilliant idea.

Experts say to “Create your day in advance.”  I had been doing that for many years.  Before attending and graduating from law school, I made sure that I created the room and the time and the intent for success.  I had also written a list of goals that probably were like a bucket list.

And after mulling over and reading Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, I felt I was able to feel what is more ME. How am I to expereince and see life and relationships in a more fruitful and relaxed way, and also a way that is my unique way of seeing the world?  For example, I happen to LOVE taking notes.  Rubin mentions that as one of her fond things to do.  I also find it relaxing and even focusing and increasinng my creativity.  

What else?  I find my drawing and gardening so ME;  I return back from a workshop and that is all I feel like doing, sit and draw or paint or weed or plant……  Those two activities bring me back to being the unqie person I am meant to be…..and they give me back a happy spirit that emerges even after helping clients with their woes of life.

Yet it was an AHH, AHH moment when I realized:  No more To-Do list, but instead concentrate of my To-Feel List.  I plan to feel good and happy.  I intend now to have more time focused on the things that are unqiuely my spirit and loves.  So, call Regina, YES!  Grab the protractor and draw a new geometric design, YES!  Hug my partner, YES!  Call my children and rejoice in their voices, YES!

And after a week of concentrating more on my feelings, guess what?  I can tell my whole body is saying, “Good deal!  Way to go woman!  Enjoy your uniquess for all it offers!

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Visualizing Abundance for all

September 3, 2014 //
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Yes, we sit and watch one thing, yet here are others, in Syria, Nepal, Ukraine going through a different kind of life. Is it a matter for us to think or feel about? Do we all have to take responsibility in our hearts for creating the world as an abundant happy place for everyone?

I learned in Ukraine how many limiting ideas I kept holding onto in my life. A person had asked that I work on getting the whole town wired for Internet. I said internally, “But many places in the USA do not have this yet……” And so feeling this place in Ukraine should not have it until WE in US had it…..EEKS!

It shocked me to realize my thinking. So it is something I work on, there is abundance for ALL. We do not need to fear that giving another person something–be it love, money, trees, or ducks–will diminish us in the least.

As a matter of fact, we will grow more in the scale of ALL things worthwhile!

I now take responsibility for creating the world as happy and abundant place for me and for everyone. So, to that end I am now doing my tapping and meditations with a sense of “We……..” So as I go through the day and look for items to improve or to enjoy, I can now say, “May WE all be at peace. May WE all have abundance. May WE all realize health in or lives.”

Please try asking for things for yourself and for everyone in your world and in the whole world. Use the word “WE” when asking for help or praying for an intent.

Let me know how it goes: Does it change your relationships in any way? Does it have a spiritual side that amazes you? And as per the law of attraction, do you see your own life changing in wonderful ways?

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Tapping for Ireland’s Grave Sites by Margaret “Maggie” Hankamp

June 11, 2014 //
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A friend who lives in Ireland had e-mailed me this article from the newspaper Irish Mirror:

http://www.irishmirror.ie/news/irish-news/crime/gardai-begin-probe-800-babies-3657033

The article tells of a prior 1975 discovery of a mass grave site, this site only being investigated now in 2014.

My friend and I use tapping of Chinese acupuncture points to clear our old stories and lessen the impact of things that trigger us emotionally or physically.

Yes, this article triggered me. It opened up more of the pus under the scab unearthed after I had seen the movie Philomena. The pus seemed to relate to how church has done what the church believed was for our best, while the church benefitted economically. Please note I am using this word “church” in a general way to cover more than one denomination here.

So, reading this article brought forth ideas to tap on. I share them here, and I plan to keep working to uncover more of a solution. May these ideas help you also find more peace.

“Even though some people in the church do mean things and things to profit themselves, I deeply and completely accept myself and my feelings of anger and distrust.

Even though I grew up believing the church was right and knew the best for us all, I deeply and completely accept myself and my feelings of anger and disappointment.

Even though I believed so strongly that the church was correct, I accept my feelings of anger and disappointment.

KC: I needed to have security

TH: I felt protected by the church

EB: I was so naive.

UE: I could kick myself for believing the church and its rules.

UN: I feel so stupid.

CH: I feel so stupid and say, “Is there any good that comes out of this?”

CB: A good for me: I am learning to trust myself and my gut feelings.

UA: A good for me: am learning to trust in myself and validate my own behaviors and beliefs.

UN: A good for me: I am positive my heart and my feelings connect me to integrity.

Wrists Together: The universe is constantly looking out for my welfare.

TH: I am fearful of replacing one dogma with another.

EB: I am searching for my own true values and universal truths of our world to lead me on our common journey.

SE: I trust that being open and connected with all people of the world will help me accomplish my purpose here on earth..

UE: I trust my own guidance system.

UN: I love myself and my viewpoints.

CH: I enjoy people who calmly argue and say their positions pro and con on all topics.

CB: I speak my truth with calmness and love and joy.

UA: I listen with respect and an open mind.

UN: I digest and clear out old or toxic or misinformed ideas.

Wrists Together: I am ready to forgive those in the church.

TH: I choose to forgive people in the church; they were doing the best they could.

EB: If I forgive them, will anything change?

SE: I trust the universe will open the minds of people involved and bring about change in church.

UE: I see that all churches use all their resources to support people in their life journey.

UN: I see churches discovering their purpose to improve the lives of women, children, and men.

CH; I see a world whose people are free of fear and are able to grow to their fullest in spirit, mind, and body.

UA: I see a world where all people know they are connected and their actions show that connection.

Take three big breaths; drink some water if you are thirsty.

Please send all healing energy to Ireland.

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Ha Ha Ha He He He Ho Ho Ho :-) to Wellness by Margaret Hankamp

February 1, 2014 //
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I dare you, doctors of all kinds!

I dare you to breakaway from that TV set in your waiting room.

I dare you to encourage wellness.

I dare you to stop advertising sickness and pills and drama and all that goes with it.

Suggestion: REPLACE all of the pharmaceutical videos and supposed “health” infomercials with videos.

Yes, with videos, and what about comedies? How about you start with a Laurel and Hardy short video? Let that play for one week and see the difference in your office environment.

See how people respond when the nurse asks them, “How are you?”

See how your staff responds after one week of a lighter feeling pervading the space.

See some smiles around the office? Maybe you’ll start to see some lightness of heart in your staffs? Maybe even you will feel more like talking and laughing and sharing what is going on in your own world?

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HOW MUCH do I trust my sons? by Margaret Hankamp

November 8, 2013 //
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Today I am vacuuming the apartment.  I hate vacuuming.  I have to tap to get in the mood to do this necessary job.  I have to tap to let the job of vacuuming be a meditation for me.

 

Well, guess what?

 

It worked!

 

I was vacuuming and breathing as I moved my body back and forth with that blasted machine………..I began thinking about my sons.  I was thinking as I vacuumed and as I meditated how I love them so very much.  They know now, since they have children of their own, too, that feeling of utmost love that is unconditionally present when you look at your child.

 

So, was it any wonder that the following thought came into my mind?  Because I love my sons so very much, I trusted and knew with a certainty that amazed me, that they have chosen the most perfect women for them to spend the rest of their lives with.   It came to me as a revelation how perfect, as soul mates, their wives are.

 

It came to me that my trust in their intelligence and decision-making was at the highest level right now, and that this is because I can say without any doubts, their spouses are there for them and ready to grow entirely, that is, mentally, physically, and spiritually, with them for the rest of their lives.

 

OK, you  caught me, I did have to stop vacuuming because tears came to my eyes then…….

 

I am so blessed to know this and feel this in my heart.  Way to go, Forrest and Kevin!  You are the pride of my heart!  And I know you will continue to amaze me for the next 50+ or – years that I’ll see your learning and growth.

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Martha Beck, I feel you stopped too soon……..by Margaret Hankamp

October 8, 2013 //
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I subscribe to OPRAH magazine. Why do I subscribe? I like several of the authors who write for OPRAH and feel a monthly jolt of their positive energies will keep me and those people I gift the magazine to in better balance.

This month, September, 2013, I read with anticipation a wonderful article called, “What Makes You Tick,” under a monthly column written by Martha Beck, “May We Help You?” The summary encourages us to read it by saying that Martha Beck will describe how to defuse “explosive situations.” In addition, she will enable us to “Revisit emotional triggers of the past.” p. 44.

Beck uses the language of war. It appears that we all have had social minefields, “created whenever we ground our actions in some form of fear.” P. 45. Then emotional triggers are set up for us to relive and re-engage our emotions as if still living through the original “trauma-drama.” Whatever and however created, we continue to visit these minefields over and over in our lives. We are triggered by people or events and end up right back in the minefield.

Martha Beck describes a beginning method to alleviate these drama-trauma and excessive intensities by use of her three-step system called “RAT.” First, she suggests you begin to Recognize when we are in the throes of an emotional trigger. Then she says to analyze: feelings before, what is associated with that feeling, when begin, and especially, “Do I want to keep on re-creating that trauma?’ And lastly, as point three, use Beck’s system called ‘Tranquil Eyes” to make your reaction less explosive and even create fewer trauma-dramas.

EEKS, not enough! EEKS, not fast enough! I actually spoke out, “Why did you stop there?”

Here is where I suggest Martha Beck truly help people to lessen emotional intensity around these minefields. I am aghast to see that tapping/EFT [Emotional Freedom Technique; see http://www.eftuniverse.com] was not properly cited as a method to calm and release the intensity around these minefields. Tapping is a method that uses our own physical bodies to release the energy blockages that have occurred around the emotional minefield.

Understandably a system so easy to learn and also to teach and write about would help any of her readers immensely. Please, Martha Beck, do know that what you gave was, in my opinion, misleading. When there are methods such as tapping these Chinese acupuncture points for stress relief, why are you neglecting to educate?

Life will go on, yet my reaction to this article is an important sign to me.

I plan to spread the message about tapping/EFT even more strongly in this blog. Here an accepted and acknowledged expert in the helping field leaves a large reading public in the dark about the best and quickest way to defuse these emotional traumas and minefields. Why did she fail to help more people in such an open forum?

Please, any readers of this blog, go over to the http://www.eftuniverse.com and watch free videos and subscribe to the free manual to learn how to successfully work with these emotional triggers. There are also practitioners listed all across the world. And there are classes for you to attend and learn more of this system being used more extensively to lessen both emotional and physical pain. You do NOT have to continue re-living and carrying around in your energetic system these old drama-traumas the rest of your life.

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Why Don’t YOU Blog? by Margaret Hankamp

October 2, 2013 //
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OK, OK, my older son had told me about blogging several years ago. He is a computer expert, and he knew I enjoyed reading and also writing very much. I began yet did not keep that blog up then. I had more life that seemed to be necessary to live, family and friends to keep up with, a move to California, volunteering with San Diego Reiki Corps, 2 years in the United States Peace Corps, Ukraine 2010-2012. All along, I was continuously studying and applying Gary Craig’s tapping methods ​via tapping called EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, studying EFT then with Dawson Church, then a study and practice of massage therapy techniques in Nepal and Thailand.

Beginning to blog was a result of my tapping practice. I realized I wanted to share more of my ideas and solutions. It is also thanks to a fellow tapping coach, Christine at http://www.practialcalearners.com, that the value of sharing solutions to life’s problems became even more apparent.​ Resources ​benefiting me were available from Dawson Church, Donna Eden, Gene Monterastelli, Joan Borysenko, Rick Hanson, and others. How could I not share in this explosion of great ideas and solution-focused work​ using energy​?

What are the values of blogging?

First and foremost, blogging is a meditative practice. Instead of focusing on 77 ideas at once, in blogging, you must concentrate on one idea or theme and ​develop​ that idea in an orderly fashion. Authorities say we have over 60,000 thoughts in a day, most of these thoughts are repetitive. So, way-to-go, blogging helps your mind to be focused. Blogging would also help to train your mind to be more concise. And I notice I relax as I am writing, so it may benefit you also all around physically as well as emotionally and mentally.

Second, blogging becomes a way to open your heart more and even trust more. Yes, of course I practice daily yoga and energy practices including tapping ​and Donna Eden’s Five mInute routine​. However, blogging makes me see that what I share unconditionally and without fear opens me up and makes a difference in my feelings towards myself and all others.

Third, blogging encourages you to train your mind and become clear about what you do feel or think about a topic. Or, if no single answer, blogging is a way to record your uncertainly about a topic. I have so many ideas that are here in my drafts. I only hit that “publish” when ​I feel blog is ready to be shared with another human being. Even if my uncertainty shows in the blog, that’s ok, A blog does not need to be perfect but may be published to uncover my own feelings and thoughts and those opinions of another person who may have a reaction to my blog.​

What a relief to know blogging keeps that basic sense of always being a mind trainer. And I had worried that the art of writing, I ​very much ​enjoy writing letters, had died out…..no way!

Fourth, and maybe most importantly in your busy lives of so much technology and not enough listening: You will be heard. You will be heard maybe by thousands, or maybe by five people, yet know with certainly you are essential in this world. What you blog has an influence on the world around you. Your ideas and solutions and sharing are essential, just like YOU are ​ESSENTIAL ​to our world.

So, get out there and blog! ​S​tart slowly or start quickly, but share and open your heart and know that your can trust your blog to help guide and organize your feelings and thoughts in all planes of life​.​

Have you been encouraged to blog?​ Who or what is that person or event who got you started?​ Let me know……..

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Must YOU Have TV on?

September 10, 2013 //
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A tv was blaring loudly as we three entered a doctor’s office. We were the only people there, one a patient, two others present were family members. While waiting I had picked up a business card of this doctor, thinking it might be useful in the future.

I sit and read in a magazine that aging and memory are better served by fewer hours of tv watching. TV watching stops you from doing physical activities, from having relationships, from learning new things. The bottom line is: TV watching does not build new neural connections to help us in keeping dementia at bay.

I walk up and explain to receptionist about keeping our brains healthy, and I show her the magazine article. I ask to turn off the TV.

Then the patient and one patient member go with patient into screening room. I am left alone in office.

Receptionist comes out from behind the glass of office to say, “Patients want to watch TV.” Receptionist turns on tv. receptionist does not even wait to discuss this; receptionist walks quickly out of the office and down the sidewalk to another office. Now what was that about? This surprised me since no other people had entered this waiting room…………….

Guess what?

I ripped up this doctor’s business card.

The receptionist sets a tone for any office. If this is how the receptionist works and handles customer service, then I prefer to go elsewhere. I appreciate this receptionist’s feelings for other patients, especially when they are present. However, when only one person is there, and that person has requested TV be turned off for potential brain health, this was not a good example to see nor experience.

What do you feel?

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Oh, Those Absolutes!

August 26, 2013 //
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Today is a day to think about absolutes and the roles they have played in your life. I came to this after humorously thinking how far I’d come and what absolutes I had overcome in my life. I got to thinking about my brother and his girlfriend saying, “You’ll never finish that.” Or, another professional telling me, “You’ll always be that way.” And maybe I had also held onto a few absolutes that I thought were true also………..

So, what absolutes have you been told by others? Here are a few examples:

“You’ll never be college material.”

“You’ll never make it in that world.”

“You’ll never be any different!”

“You’ll never complete that….schooling or training or program.”

And, think about what absolutes you have told yourself or continue telling, yourself:

“I’ll never be good enough for that relationship.”

“I cannot ever finish that……training or program.”

“I’m always going to be……alone, depressed, overweight, tired.”

“They’ll never believe I can do…..that job, presentation, education.”

“I’ll never earn more than…………..”

I suggest you can work on any of these absolutes and free yourself from these helpless feelings embedded in your energy system.

Which absolute do you want to work on today?

You have a potential solution in your hands with tapping/EFT emotional Freedom technique. (Also see eftuniverse.com)

Here’s how to do it:

Rate on a scale of “0” to “10” your belief in the absolute you have hanging around your neck. A “1” is a low belief in the absolute; a “10” is an overwhelming feeling that this absolute is true and nothing ever may be done about it.

Tap on your sore point or on the karate point and say, “Even though I’ll never………..(insert one from above or from your own feelings), I deeply and completely accept myself and my feelings. Tap on your karate point 3 times while saying that phrase or a similar phrase.

Then tap 7 to 10 times along the following points saying a short phrase, “Never be able to….”:

Tap where eyebrows start at the bridge of your nose;

Tap on side of eye on bone;

Tap under eye in the center on the bone;

Tap under your nose;

Tap uner your lips;

Tap using hand in a full fist on collarbone point just under the “U” of collarbone;

Tap about 4 inches under armpit;

And then Tap inside of wrists together while taking several deep breaths.

Reassess your belief in these absolutes. Keep tapping until you get relief in your absolute belief intensity to a “O” or maybe a “1”.

IF a story comes up while tapping on your absolute, plese write this story down. This story will be fuel for another tapping session. Right now all we’d like to do is feel some relief in your energetic system from the stress of an embedded absolute.

Tell me how it goes. All success in tapping!

Tell me how it goes!

I wish you success wiht tapping.

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“The World Is Not Looking.”

August 18, 2013 //
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Uwem Akpan had written a book of short stories that are fiction.  The title is:  Say You’re One of Them.  He feels we would “sit for a while with people we would rather not meet,” if we meet those same people in a book of fiction instead of in real life.

So who does Uwem Akpan want us to meet?  He is a Catholic priest who wants us to meet children.  Not just any children, but those who have experienced the horrors of life in war-torn Africa.

We meet in his book fellow human beings who have learned about the strength to carry on in life.  Young people, faced with the threat of trafficking or the multiple threats of war-torn life, still can manage to find goodness in life.  We read about Good Samaritans like Mallam Abdullaki who can save people, whether Muslim or Christian, by hiding them under his family’s prayer mats.  We read about Smiley Kpee who has a change of heart in trafficking his nephew and nieces.  We read that  “Hugzee, hugzee,” can still be sent to a Muslim Best Friend Selam who is able to understand a covert conversations from her balcony.  And what do we learn?

We learn to appreciate that what makes these children so strong is that they do carry on, as far as they are able, because they discover an inkling of kindness and of goodness in life from other people around them..  And they can appreciate knowing that fellow humans can be kind and attempt to save lives, even if not at first.

Yes, we are the world and we can look.  We can read these five fictional stories and let them soak into our energetic being.  We can understand that evil exists and then look for and focus on all the kindnesses of people that we meet.

 

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