What could we life coaches do for people who gain a secondary reward from being sick or in pain?  Is there an effective way with tapping to guide them to the idea that rewards may be available elsewhere?

Let’s imagine we are a sick child.  Remember from childhood how many of us were treated.  We had attention and care from a parent or caregiver  We were given special foods, different from that eaten by the rest of the family.  Someone hugged us and made noises of caring and appreciation about us and our illness.    Maybe we did not have to do something, like go to school or to another obligation.  Now, do you feel the love and coziness and comfort surrounding us?

So, now as an adult, of course, we feel that need for love and closeness.  We turn to pain or sickness to see if we may again achieve what we had in childhood.  So what are some possible things to do so these wonderful rewards are brought in from sources other than pain or illness?

We could all sing many many vereses of, “Every little cell in my body is healthy….” sung to the tune of  “Shortning Bread” while tapping: up and down our arms, then up and down our legs, then top of head to tap finally on our butts.

“Every little cell in my body is healthy, Every little cell in my body is well,          [tap up and down arms, first left, then right]

Every little cell in my body is healthy, Every little cell in my body is well.            [tap up and down legs, first left, then right]

Feels so good, Feels so swell, Every little cell in my body is well;                           [tap top of head, tap cheekbones, collarbone, then buttocks]

Feels so good, Feels so swell, Every little cell in my body is well.”                         [repeat]

At the very least, I find people that I lead in singing this song get laughing a lot.  🙂  And that has always helped the person I’m coaching to move ino a new choice.

Or, how about I stop judging and criticizing this need of a person for comfort and love?  How about I learn to accept this need as a necessary component of every person’s life?  And I learn to open my heart more to send them all love and thoughts of safety?

Maybe these same people will grow and learn to choose other methods to get these rewards.  Or, maybe not.  Does it matter in the greater scheme of things?  Not really, the only observation is they may have had more fun in life.  And that I believe everyone deserves.

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