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Tapping today with friends at Ukraine Window on America English Club.  We discussed anger and its forms.  We also discussed where anger appears in our bodies.  Also how do we know we are angry?  Especially since we are told by our parents and our teachers and our religious leaders as children that anger is not appropriate, how do we know we are angry?

And, consider, do we want to reach our death beds with all of these angers remaining blocked in our energetic and physical systems?  Especially since you know tapping can help lessen both the intesity and the prolonged duration of anger, why not try it?  Tapping works even if you do not believe in it.

And once we know we are angry, how may we open up any blockages in our body and mind and soul that are frozen in anger?

How do we find where we have “stuffed that anger?”

LISTEN:

Anger could be hidden behind your words such as “irritation” or “frustration” or “annoyance” or even “my pet peeve.”  When you say, “I feel annoyed…..,” pay attention and see what you are experiencing in your body and mind.  Write down any such annoyances or irritations in a small notebook and tap on them when you have time.

So today listen to yourself.

FEEL:

Anger may be hidden behind some pain or discomfort in your body.  Scan your body now.  Is there discomfort or pain?  Rate how high it is now on a scale of “0” bein no pain, to “10” being an excruciating pain that will not lessen.

Write the level of pain down in your notebook.  Then, tap fully on the discomfort or pain.  Tap to lessen that pain or discomfort to a “0” or a “1.”  Be aware that other stories might come up as you tap.  Write these stories down for a later tapping session.

As always, we may do tapping secretly, so no one near us knows what we are doing.  Tapping will still help us lessen that anger that is showing up.  And tapping is very efective at lessening that pain or discomfort we feel n our bodies.

SUGGESTION:  In the evening before sleep, take a few minutes to think of anything or any body who annoyed you today.  Tap to lessen that sense of annoyance or irritation.

In the morning, what is on your mind as you first wake up?  If any annoyance or irritation at something or some body appears, then tap for a minute or two so you can lessen that impact.

Tell me how you feel and if your sense of anger/irritation/annoyance/frustration/pet peeve have been lowered?

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I subscribe to OPRAH magazine. Why do I subscribe? I like several of the authors who write for OPRAH and feel a monthly jolt of their positive energies will keep me and those people I gift the magazine to in better balance.

This month, September, 2013, I read with anticipation a wonderful article called, “What Makes You Tick,” under a monthly column written by Martha Beck, “May We Help You?” The summary encourages us to read it by saying that Martha Beck will describe how to defuse “explosive situations.” In addition, she will enable us to “Revisit emotional triggers of the past.” p. 44.

Beck uses the language of war. It appears that we all have had social minefields, “created whenever we ground our actions in some form of fear.” P. 45. Then emotional triggers are set up for us to relive and re-engage our emotions as if still living through the original “trauma-drama.” Whatever and however created, we continue to visit these minefields over and over in our lives. We are triggered by people or events and end up right back in the minefield.

Martha Beck describes a beginning method to alleviate these drama-trauma and excessive intensities by use of her three-step system called “RAT.” First, she suggests you begin to Recognize when we are in the throes of an emotional trigger. Then she says to analyze: feelings before, what is associated with that feeling, when begin, and especially, “Do I want to keep on re-creating that trauma?’ And lastly, as point three, use Beck’s system called ‘Tranquil Eyes” to make your reaction less explosive and even create fewer trauma-dramas.

EEKS, not enough! EEKS, not fast enough! I actually spoke out, “Why did you stop there?”

Here is where I suggest Martha Beck truly help people to lessen emotional intensity around these minefields. I am aghast to see that tapping/EFT [Emotional Freedom Technique; see http://www.eftuniverse.com] was not properly cited as a method to calm and release the intensity around these minefields. Tapping is a method that uses our own physical bodies to release the energy blockages that have occurred around the emotional minefield.

Understandably a system so easy to learn and also to teach and write about would help any of her readers immensely. Please, Martha Beck, do know that what you gave was, in my opinion, misleading. When there are methods such as tapping these Chinese acupuncture points for stress relief, why are you neglecting to educate?

Life will go on, yet my reaction to this article is an important sign to me.

I plan to spread the message about tapping/EFT even more strongly in this blog. Here an accepted and acknowledged expert in the helping field leaves a large reading public in the dark about the best and quickest way to defuse these emotional traumas and minefields. Why did she fail to help more people in such an open forum?

Please, any readers of this blog, go over to the http://www.eftuniverse.com and watch free videos and subscribe to the free manual to learn how to successfully work with these emotional triggers. There are also practitioners listed all across the world. And there are classes for you to attend and learn more of this system being used more extensively to lessen both emotional and physical pain. You do NOT have to continue re-living and carrying around in your energetic system these old drama-traumas the rest of your life.

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